“For this is the object always set before him by the wise and good man … Is it to marry? No; but if marriage is allowed to him, in this matter his object is to maintain himself in a condition conformable to nature.”
— Epictetus, Discourses IV.5
The seventh of the precepts in the Rule of Musonius is:
7. To use sex only for virtuous purposes, and within the confines of fidelity.
We take it upon ourselves to use our sexual faculties with kindness and virtue. We take it upon ourselves to follow the prescriptions laid out in Musonius’ Lecture XII, Lectures XIII A and XIII B, Lecture XIV, and Lecture XV in regards to family life.
I don’t think is a topic I’ve addressed much. The other day, I promised an issue which I thought should raise some controversy… but really hasn’t. So the section from Musonius on which this precept is based states that sexual activity is only acceptable within the confines of marriage and for the purpose of procreation.
You can see that I’ve made a change a here, for “within the confines of fidelity.” I admit this is a divergence. There’s a few reason for it. One is that concept of marriage these days has a controversy surrounding its definition and applicability which I wanted to avoid. It’s not my intent to exclude anyone from using this system. Second, I think Musonius may have been a little short-sighted in this position which we took.
Musonius values the institution of family highly, and neglect the bonding and closeness between married persons which is only aided by sexual activity between them seems a glaring omission. My thought, is that Musonius has actually made an error. The sexual act is pleasurable, but the Stoic should be able to see its utility beyond the pleasure which occurs with it.
It’s important that he or she does not become a slave to it, but its presence shouldn’t be a reason to turn aside entirely.
For these reasons, I’ve adopted the term fidelity in the precept rather than marriage.
This is something which I expected lots of controversy around, but only ever received maybe one comment towards that end.
This is part of the 2016 iteration of Camp Seneca.